15 July 2009

Waiting and the unknown...

Hubby just left to fly up and see hi mum. They found out yesterday that the cancer she originally had in her bowel has now spread to her lungs after originally spreading to her liver. As to be expected hubby is very upset. The thing that has been the hardest is the waiting for the inevitable. Cancer is a strange thing sometimes it sneaks up on someone and takes them quickly, and others can get sometime like a few weeks or months and others just hard to tell. Hubby's mum fell in the realm of months. However, she has defied those odds and has been battling for just over three years but it seems that as of just recently the cancer has become more aggressive.

All of the waiting and not knowing when or how bad this will get is taking a toll on hubby. sometime I think it's better if the loved one or dear friend is taken quickly. You may not have been able to say goodbye or I love you, but at least you are not faced with watching the person you care so much for slowly wither away. It's important to remember that someone can be taken from you in a blink of an eye. So you need to always remember to never let a day go by without telling that person how you feel about them. I know that when ever hubby or I leave the house we always say I love you because I would hate to think that something might happen and I didn't get that chance to tell him how I feel about him. Also, believe me when I say that it is the most horrible experience watching a loved one die slowly in front of your eyes because I've been there twice in my life.

I've told hubby he needs to make the most of this time with his mum and that any chance he gets he needs to go up and spend time with her. So, off he went this am and we are left to wait out the unknown. I apologise for such a dreary post but I needed to write about this to feel a bit better.


Ur-spo said...

what a sad story. It is a common one, alas. My experience is words are usually lame and useless here.
I agree with you to make the most of what time there is, and everyone stay close - no one should be alone in an ordeal like this.

rjjs8878 said...

I’m sorry to hear about your hubby’s mother. Cancer has taken a number of my friends and tried to take me but I beat it back for now. Your love and emotional support will help your hubby deal with the situation. My thoughts are with you and your hubby.